I wanted to add that I really think you should research open adoption. My dh and i did NOT NOT want visits with any birthmother, well we read some AWESOME books (not to mention this board), PM me if you want names, and now we are doing FULLY open adoption, Grandparents and all (still waiting to be matched). I can't wait and am so very excited. I was SO glad that we researched this, even if we chose to do semi-open, at least we were armed with knowledge. IMO, after the reading I have done, whenever possible open adoption IS best for the child. Unlike what some think (and this surprised me also to find this out, as I thought like this at first) open adoption is NOT for the birthmother or the adoptive parent (although they do get some "perks" for lack of better word) it is for the child. So is it harder on aparents and bparents? Maybe, maybe not, but, from what I have read and researched, it is MUCH better for the child.
BUT you have to be comfortable in whatever you choose. Don't just assume you know what you want before researching though (as we did), believe me, you will learn a LOT and, even if your view doesn't change, you will be much more solid in what you believe!!
Good luck and feel free to PM me if you like!!
Natalie