Unfortunately....if we stopped doing business with every company that was not adoption sensitive...we wouldn't be able to buy groceries, gas, clothes, anything. Sad, but mostly true. When Ethan started daycare he was about 8 weeks old. Everyone had lots of questions and I did my best to educate people. In the end, I think it made him more favored than anything. They loved that he was adopted and wanted so much to help him. I would not feel badly about going back to the center you like and talking with the woman again. Let her know that you adopted your son because you love him and b/c of that you want him to have the best care possible. you may want to bring up the comment, or wait to see if the subject comes up again, but think about what you want to say in advance. Some people who say rude things have just found themselves at the end of their fertility and wondering what they are going to do. Some of them are curious about adoption, and do not know how to ask about it in a manner we would deem polite. I can not tell you how many comments I have gotten about not having my "own" kids that have turned into amazing adoption conversations. (I am not making excuses for EVERYONE who makes rude comments...just some.) I do not think you are being too sensitive. YOu are wanting your son to be treated appropriately, and that is not too much to ask. But if everything else about this place is what you want, I would give them a chance.....along with some literature on adoption language
