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Originally Posted by justlittleolme
At least you are honest enough to admit it from the get-go... good luck... but honestly, if you feel so threatened by the "birth mother" who is not even a birth mother yet, then maybe you should reexamine why you would like to do domestic adoption
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I would say because in international adoption the health and attachement issues would far out weigh any potential post domestic adoption issues.
Once the birthmother/birthfather relinquish their rights then the adoptive parents are under no obligation what-so-ever to provide any information, updates, photos, meetings or anything else. (which is fine, but the adoptive parents need to be upfront with their agency and the potential birthparents on their stance).
There should be no post adoption "surprises" for either the adoptive parents of the birthparents. As long as you are honest from the get go.... then you will be matched with a birthparent that has the same out look.
Any IMHO there is nothing wrong with that as long as everyone is on the same page!