[ggman]

I am popping in from another board... we are in the process of adopting from Haiti.

We are not "infertile" although it was difficult for us to get pg with our bio DD. We chose adoption as the way we wanted to add to our family for child #2.

A few months ago (about 7-8 mo into our adoption) we learned that I was pg. (Complete surprise... we never thought I could get pregnant "accidentally" and I always got a little bit irritated with people who did. LOL)

Anyhow-- initially I was terrified that the pregnancy would somehow hinder the adoption of my son in Haiti. I was afraid they would let us adopt him still and I was a mess. HOwever, we learned that wouldn't be an issue and I grew used to the idea, but I was still dealing with the issue of ambivilance about it. At my eight week ultrasound, they found that the baby was no longer live... probably had died 2.5 weeks prior. I WAS DEVASTATED! I mean it. I really was. This 6 weeks ago and I am still having a really hard time dealing with it.

Crazy hormonal things happen in pregnancy-- remember that. Be gentle and patient with yourself. When you are going through it it's hard to remember that it will all work out in the end-- but you know it will.

Good luck!