[SchnauzerMom]

As you can see in my siggy, we have dealt with infertility as well. We were married nearly 5 years ago and never used any type of birth control from day 1 of the marriage. We had used infertility specialists for 4 years and finally said enough. All they could tell us is we were "unexplained" because both DH and I have no obvious problem, yet as two 30 year olds, we couldn't get pregnant. We had become a case the whole 7-9 doctor practice was consulting on and started feeling like an experiment.

Once we decided to adopt I just felt a huge relief. It was like some weight was lifted off of me and I felt truly happy for the first time in a long while. Then people started making those "now you'll get pregnant" comments. Whenever someone says this to me, my memories of all the horrors I went through trying to get pregnant just resurface and I become stressed out thinking about it all. I would like to have bio children someday in addition to adopted children, but for now I just want to enjoy the joy of adopting our daughter and finally becoming a family--not be reminded of my inability to conceive, especially when I know it may never happen and there are several relatives in my family that took over 10 years to conceive.

I know if I were in shoes I would be unhappy about the pregnancy as well. Like you, I been pregnant briefly only to lose the baby or waited expectantly for some great IVF transfer only to show up negative on the pregnancy test 2 weeks later. No pregnancy will seem real to me until I reach the 2nd trimester. I hope it works out for you, but know there is someone that understands what you are going through. God bless!

Heather