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DS understands there is a bio - but does not in any way, shape or form consider him a "dad". He's never really known him as such.
We didn't "wish" him away - he just IS away... Never a presence of dad at all really.
We don't feel "bad" about the checks - they just don't make any sense to us, or to DS who is nearly grown.
We can't say on the one hand that that person is not the dad and then hold him to act like one (as if he ever did).
I still say that step adoption is adoption like any other. I don't pay child support as the bio to my adopted childs aparents.... My DS's bio has no obligation to pay child support to this adopted child either.
I'm not knocking any one for their way of handling it, just saying it doesn't make sense to me.
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