Don't shoot me...
Ok, I know this is probably going to really tick people off, but it totally confuses me. I've got to say it.
If the bio parent is NOT the parent anymore, and the adoption has taken place, thereby making the adoptive parent the REAL Mom/Dad.... why do you even want or feel that the prior parent should pay it?
It seems hypocritical to the whole idea and concept of the step-parent adoption in the first place. With this ideology, birth parents who have TPR'd should still be paying child support to the adoptive parents. I honestly do not get it.
I'm coming from a place here where my DS has had NO contact from his bioD in YEARS and while a formal adoption is not complete, my DH IS his dad - in everyones eyes. That makes his care OUR responsibility... not the MIA X-dad.
In Texas, I tried and tried to get the AG office to terminate the collection and STOP forwarding them. They wouldn't. So for a while we just returned them unopened. Then it stopped for a long while, and then we got dozens of checks all at once - also returned. Now it has stopped again. ::shrug::
I suppose the argument might be that "the money is for the care of the child"... well, kids don't come into the world with 3 parents - just 2... and my DS HAS 2 parents providing for him. It would be akin to taking money from my next door neighbor for his care.
I apologize in advance for ruffling any feathers but seriously - I just DO NOT get it. At All.
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