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My opinion is that you should change the names however you want, and if your decision doesn't find favor with your kids when they are older, they can change their names.
I couldn't stand my name (I'm not adopted, it was my name always) and I changed it (first and last) when I was in college, then later I changed it (first middle and last) again. I am still not happy with the last name but my daughter (who I adopted less than a year ago) is against us changing our last name, even tho before the adoption she claimed to dislike it. She told me she is used to it now.
My daughter was already 9 yrs old when I adopted her, and just as a matter of form I asked her if she wanted to change her first name. And at the time she said no. Since I expected that answer I didn't pursue it. Since then she realized she could have changed her first name and she claims I didn't ask her or she might have wanted to. I have to admit I asked her while she was jumping up and down on the trampoline, but I really didn't think she would want to at all.
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