[Moongrl22]

I truly hope you do your research before you go through the adoption process. I think it's wonderful that a child has two set's of parents. I'm a Bmother and I've considered myself a "Tummy mummy" because for nine months, I cared for a child, loved the baby and after giving birth to her I choose to give her up to a wonderful, loving, caring couple who would give her the life she deserved. A life I couldn't offer. I didn't want her to be raised with a single mother and struggling to make it pay check to pay check. The adoptive parents are more than just adoptive parents they are her mom and dad for life. I never want to replace her parents but I am hopeful that some day she will want to know me. Their is so much LOVE to share. I don't mind Sharing in her life and loving her. I also think it's important to respect birth mothers who have sacrificed their own child to loving couples who want a baby to raise. I was able to move forward with my life being at peace that I placed my child with wonderful, loving parents. Thank goodness for OPEN adoption. I gave up my baby, my angel in 1988.

Originally Posted by Runyan2002

Okay, My dh and I have just joined an agency that does open adoptions. I personally believe that this is really the right way to go, no matter how difficult it may be for us. Anyway, I have read some posts that says that the child will "always have two moms"...is this the way it is looked at? I believe that the child will have ONE mom, (the Adoptive Mom) and a birthmom. I completely respect the birthmom's out there, and realize and am OK with the child always having a special bond that she has with her. But, to say that the child has two mom's is very confusing. I am still researching Open Adoption and am SO excited to begin, but this kind of freaks me out. As much as I want the birthmom to be our extended family, I don't want my child to think of her as it's "2nd mom".....


I hope this doesn't sound harsh, I am just confused and have not done much research in wording, etc (or just starting out)....I would love to hear experiences, etc!! Thank you!!