StacyKelly,
This is a quote from the "General Adoption Forum" by redbonec with the title "legal risk placement".
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Originally Posted by SanInUtah
I can handle uncertainty when it's presented to me with dates and decisions. Not knowing for the 'match' time, waiting for finalization on a VRN....I don't know that I could do that and bond.
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SanInUtah made a good point. If there were just a date and time that we could say, "Well, it will all be finalized by ..." then it would be easier to get through. It is this unknowing and uncertainty for which there is no deadline that is most difficult for me to accept. Also, if there were some sort of deadline then we could know that the bparents that are not doing anything and have not done anything for years would not be likely to make any sort of deadline.
I still can not fathom that with a complete, finalized adoption the bmom can STILL come back and file again, and again. The only way for it to stop is if I force it back into court. I desperately want to do that but am terrified I will lose my son if I do. It is like he is being held a legal hostage.
I have one more quote I'm going to post which helped to validate my feelings on all this.
Best,
Christie