Doing nothing makes no sense to me either - yet that is what every lawyer has told us to do. I think the lawyers have no idea of the strain this places on an afamily - and in the process they get to hang on to a money-making case. Of course lawyers do not seek closure - then they would not keep being able to charge these outrageous fees. Lawyers, my lawyers (ex-lawyers actually since I have fired them all) are in it for themselves and care nothing about my son, or the laws which allow this sort of tragedy to continue. They LOVE to "keep it going" as that is how they make a living. They will sacrifice an innocent child, a family, the laws and codes, because it is in THEIR best interest.
Now - if someone wants to argue with me on this point then please feel free and I'll tell you the details of EXACTLY what lawyers have done - and not done - in my case. I personally blame both the politics, and the laws and codes, and the lawyers and judges for atrocities committed in my case. Yeah, yeah, I'm sure there is an ethical attorney out there somewhere - I've just never experienced one.
I never wanted a battle either. In fact, I did everything I could to avoid one. I offered and sacrificed EVERYTHING - only to be told that I now have to wait longer. When is it EVER enough?
No, StacyKelly, it does NOT make sense - unless you look at it from a lawyer's viewpoint. Especially when the State of Alabama is paying 5 lawyers for her; even when she was in juvy and he could not even go back to her. Then they filed to have him placed with DHR (I won that one). **Not ONE person has considered my CHILD in all of this.**
Right now we are acting pro se - I honestly don't know what else to do. It would be different if the bmom were interested in parenting early on - or if she wanted visitation - but we are in a war over nothing but lawyers and money. Make absolutely no sense.
I have been told this whole time that the longer we have our son the better - but still it has not changed. So all I can say is if you wait you had better be prepared to wait another 3 years - because I still stand where I was. And the time that has passed does NOT seem to have mattered.
We all need and deserve closure. I pray for all of us.
Christie
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Originally Posted by StacyKelly2
Doing nothing is exactly what we were told to do! Which makes no sense to me. I never wanted a battle - its not fair to this innocent baby! This makes no sense. Apparently we are okay to raise this angel all this time, but not good enough to adopt. How is this fair? Still the waiting means absolutely nothing this guy could still get the baby...We were told we have temporary custody which will not change -which means we keep the baby-until this goes to court. But does this mean the longer we have him the better our chances? You don't just leave children for months or years and expect to come in and out of their lives...that is just not fair. This is just a control issue...which is just so clear to see! -There needs to be a timeframe set for the sake of these children! They need peace and stability to know they will not wake up one day and be taken from the only family they know!! I am just desperately trying to find the answers to some of my countless questions..and its so aggravating and frustrating to know there are no exact answers..The laws are just so unpredictable for every situation. Bottom line is how can this keep going on?
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