adoption
Doing nothing is exactly what we were told to do! Which makes no sense to me. We were told that this guy needs to push for court filings if he wants the baby then he needs to make the effort...And yet he can't even do that! That is where I question his love and commitment to this baby. I never wanted a battle - its not fair to this innocent baby! 15 months is a long time to just leave your baby in temporary custody. This makes no sense. Apparently we are okay to raise this angel all this time, but not good enough to adopt. How is this fair? Still the waiting means absolutely nothing this guy could still get the baby...We were told we have temporary custody which will not change -which means we keep the baby-until this goes to court. But does this mean the longer we have him the better our chances? After seeing situations that are going on for 4 years..and 8 years that is just unthinkable!! How can these biological fathers be so heartless? You don't just leave children for months or years and expect to come in and out of their lives...that is just not fair. This is just a control issue...which is just so clear to see! These babies have formed attachaments and bonding and love and they know us as their families..to take that all away is just not right..These laws need to be changed -There needs to be a timeframe set for the sake of these children! They need peace and stability to know they will not wake up one day and be taken from the only family they know!! I am just desperately trying to find the answers to some of my countless questions..and its so aggravating and frustrating to know there are no exact answers..The laws are just so unpredictable for every situation. Bottom line is how can this keep going on?
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