[manni28]

Tara:

I don't think it a not "good" enough mindset (that adoptees aparents or society may have) it's a fact, being a parent does require diligence, hard work and sacrifice. It is a title IMO that is earned.

It's like working with your co-workers (on a project) and everybody does their share equally except one and that one person want to share the praise and credit ( I'm not saying bparents are like this.)

This is how some of us adoptees/aparents (may) feel- it's not easy being a parent,and our parents did do the hard work and we are appreciative and grateful (what child bio or adult wouldn't be?) and don't want to share our parents titles with anyone else.

You know, this conversation reminds of a conversation I had with my step-mother ( who is very nice) when she and my dad got married. She told me and my sister to call her "mom". Now, of course, that was a no-no for me and my sister because we have a "mom"-so do you see were I'm coming from? It's not only with bio-parents that adoptees are like this with.