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Hi Stacey,
If there are laws pertaining to a time frame they are not being followed with our case.We sent our story to a foundation called Fore Adoption and they put it in plain english.Quote " Legally the BF is in the drivers seat.You have raised your daughter without the benifit of legal rights". This is after 8 yrs of her life and a BF that has never did anything until we filed for adoption.We feel that everything we have done and paid for has only helped him out.OH still has not put anything in writing for jurisdiction so what we are doing now is absolutely NOTHING. We are not going to push court hearings or anything else until OH says in writing that it is going to NC.OH gave us temp custody so until they reverse that we will keep her.We will sit and wait another 8 yrs if that is what it takes.We are going to force the BF to fight for her if that is truely what he wants to do.What that means is to make him spend some money for a change and instigate court hearings and anything else it takes to get her if he truely wants her.I am sure you can understand Stacey that after 8 yrs of this little angel being in our life an adoption is only a piece of paper.She is our daughter and we are her parents in every way and nothing will ever change that.Whether we get that piece of paper or not.Are we afraid of losing her and worry everyday that we will? Not any more! We feel that the BF has never done anything for 8 yrs of her life and if we do not push the issue he will not do anything for the rest of her life and time is on our side.I feel the same way as you,If it was me and I truely did not want someone to adopt one of my kids I would be in court everyday and from the time she was born trying to get him or her back. I will never understand how a court system can look at the time frame and still allow a bparent to be in the legal drivers seat.
Good luck and God Bless
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