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I used to call my step mom "mom" when I would go to visit. I also called my mom "mom". I don't think it has anything to do with earning a title or that they have to be on equal playing field, etc. I knew who was the parent. I just felt comfortable with calling my step mom "mom". She was comfortable with that and my mom was comfortable with that as well. Bottom line, I could be called "stinky head" by my birthson and be thrilled. Whatever name he choses to call me I'm cool with.
I think it's great to say that in your situation calling your bmom mom wouldn't have worked. That's great. Keep in mind though you also grew up in a closed adoption, with no contact from your bmom. However in an open adoption, where co parenting is NOT happening, children know who is the parent and they are often comfortable with the birthparent and their role in their lives. They aren't unknown. I don't see how an adoptee calling their bmom "mom" has to diminish the role of the adoptive mom.
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