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Originally Posted by dmca
I see so much insecurity in the lies of the parents/children.
Some is to protect themselves, other lies/secrets to protect the child, even though the child was relinquished .
If I had a secret about something that I thought would hurt my birthdaughter, I'd keep it too. We are still mothers and most of us do still carry that maternal feeling towards our relinquished children and don't want them hurt.
dmca
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Oh I do understand this honestly I do. But she didn't stop for a second and think about my feelings when she said to me "Oh I don't know why HE signed it, he isn't your father and even if he was he's Dead". It was said very matter of factly. No I'm sorry there was a mix up, he's not your father and he passed away, nothing like that. There are tons of other things she had told me that clearly weren't said or told to me in a way that would spare my feelings or protect me in any way. She just plopped them on the table (so to speak) and I was meant to deal with it. Yet she would call me crying telling me how much she loved me and missed me. But just before that some hurtful things had been said and yes sometimes by both ends. She is a very blunt to the point kind of person that speaks first and thinks later. I see some of that in myself... so at least I know where I get it from! lol just kidding.
Our power just went out after I posted my last reply and it just came back on. During that time I got the paperwork back out and found a page I hadn't seen before. One of the papers stated 4 births to same mother before this one (me), but then it also states 4 births total including this birth (me). So which is it 4 plus me or 4 including me. But then again I have papers for more than 4 boys that were born before me. These are the kind of things that make me crazy! lol Plus I found out that I was from an extra marital affair or so the paper says. She left the boys father after she found out she was pregnant with me I think. So I guess this means none of the boys are my full bbrothers all are half sibs. Not that it makes them less important to me I just wanted to know.
Oh I guess I better stop rambling for now.. another storm heading right for us! The power will probably go back out. Oh what will I do without my internet! LOL
Again Thanks to all for listening and taking the time to try and help me.