[mom2GRLC]

I agree they know how much you love and care for this child and may play upon that weakness.

Just earlier this year we got back in contact with the little girl we had when she was 5. At the time she was 8 and we found out her birthmom was pregnant, they had no money to pay their bills, their water and electricity was already turned off and if they didn't find the money to pay their bills they'd be on the street and have to find a homeless shelter to stay in. (I forgot to mention that neither her mother or her father-who recently got out of jail a few months before were working).

I didn't really feel pressured by them to give them money or help them out....they were already eating all their meals at their parents house and taking their showers there...but grandparents wouldn't let them come live with them. I could just see that she was real concerned and didn't want this for her child and the one on the way.

I was not in a position to elp them out financially, nor would I have....I feel that is their responcibility not mine. But I did offer that if they did get kicked out that I wanted L to stay with me and my family for however long she needed it....rather than have her go live at a homeless shelter.

But yes.....if that happened and they were not willing to work and provide for their daughter after a good couple weeks.... DHS would have been the first one I called and she would have become my foster child until they were willing to put her needs first.

So be there friend....but I think first you have to stand up for the child....even after they go home