WELCOME! This is a good place to get lots of info & to learn.
I'll introduce myself to you first.
We are an adoptive family to 3 children & we have 2 bio children. We have Secondary Unexplained Infertility. In our 10 years now of TTC I have had an Ectopic, 8 months later a miscarriage, then did the infertility treatment & drugs journey. Then we adopted our 3 BEAUTIFUL children. They are Biracial & AA. They were domestic newborns & we brought them al home from the hospital. (Well home to the hotel for awhile then HOME!) In November of 2005 we TOTALLY unexpectedly found ourselves pregnat again! At 10 weeks we lost the baby to a miscarrige. A week later we discovered we were STILL pregnant!! After an Ultrasound we discovered it was a twin but it was an Ectopic & I had a emergency surgery because I was silently hemorraging.
Anyway, that's our story. We have never had to say no to a situation last close to birth. I am sorry that happened to you. It does happen that information is with held but not the often. You will find in MOST cases, the medical info is available & checked out. Don't let that scare you.
The waiting IS the hardest part! We were fortunate & our waits were very short. Even the few weeks that we had to wait for our children was TORTURE! I know, some of you have waited months & years so how would I know what it's like. It's terrible that you have to have your fate, your dreams, in someones else's hands.
I use to HATE when other adoptive Moms would tell me, "When the right one comes, you will understand the wait & it will ALL MAKE SENSE" LOL But it is true.
Just hold on to your dream, it will happen! This is a good place to come whle you wait. Let your thoughts out, your fears, questions, whatever!! We have been there & are here for you!!
GOOD LUCK!!
Deb