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Hey MotoXmom, I have a sister (also adopted), who I haven't seen or talked to in over 5 years. I don't know if I will be able to say this right, but I will try. My sister spent her whole life lying and making things up. She told big lies and small lies. It was like she was in a fantasy land. It got to the point when you really had no choice but not to believe her because you never knew if she was being thruthfull. She clearly did not feel she fit into our adoptive family. (as some of us don't). She would run away, not tell where she was, ALWAYS seeking attention. She is in her 40's now and has three children with 3 different men. While my parents may not have agreed with her lifestyle choices they stood by her and were more than supportive. With two of her kids she lied about who their fathers were for years. It caused a lot of heartache for those who thought they were the father or the grandparents. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I really believe that she told so many lies in her life that she herself didn't remember what the truth was.
I totally understand why you feel anger towards your b mom. You're probably like "what do you mean you don't remember?", or "why the different stories?" "How many of us are there?" From the bit of info you've given it just struck a chord in me that reminded me of my sister. Some people are just so lost in their own lives. It leaves us all wondering how did this happen? I think for my sister she was always feeling like she was being judged by others, when in reality she was judging herself. She just couldn't admit that.
Am I making any sense????????????????? Hopefully one day you will get the answers you are looking for. I hope so. Just know that WE hear you and understand!
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