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A couple of things are probably not in your favor. Your age, your singleness and your narrow scope of age range.
Do you know if your file is with more than one of the adoption centers? If it is only with one, then it will take you longer to get a child. To put it very bluntly here is what must happen for you to get a refferal.
1. only one third of available children will be given to the center with your file, the other 2/3 of children are not at all available to you. Of those children (remember that not ever child in the orphanage is available for adoption) many will not fit your age range, others will be part of larger sibling groups and even if there are two, it's very unlikely both will be in your requested age range. Some will also have disabilities or other issues that you may not be willing to accept, or that they think you will not accept, depending on how you worded things.
2. OK so say in spite of all that a child comes up that meets all of your creteria. Well first they are going to go through thier list of people who applied who are Polish and living in Poland. If none of them have asked for a child or sibling group like this one, they will look at the people of Polish descent who are not living in Poland. If none of them are looking for a child or children like this one then they will move on to the rest. Of those rest, they are going to prefer Catholics, and probably look at them first, and then practicing Christians, and then couples. Singles are probably at the bottom of the list.
To be very blunt, they are not interested in finding you a child. Rather they are interested in finding the best possible home for the children. Those things I listed above are things they consider important in matching a child. They do not do it first come, first served. Even though your file has been there two years, if someone of Polish descent who is catholic and married asks for a child in the same age range (and it's likely since many will put large age ranges) then they will get the refferal before you even if they were just approved a month ago. Now, I don't know, you may be Catholic and Polish, but the singleness is probably going against you. I don't know if a visit would help or not. But it may be time to look at other countries if you are worried about the time it is taking.
I really didn't want to be negative, but from your post you seemed like the type of person who really wants to hear it like it is. If you are willing to wait, you might one day get a child from Poland, but if you are looking for faster, you are probably better off going somewhere else. Also you might consider taking a child with mild problems. Things like crossed eyes are considered special needs, as are children missing a few fingers or with a club foot.
I wish you luck and will pray you find your child.
Lorraine
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