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I had it after our last adoption, and thought I was going crazy. I'd put feelers out to on-line friends, ask tentative questions without giving to much away and to spoke to my dh about how I was feeling, how maybe I'd made a mistake etc... Not one of them mentioned that maybe PAD was even a remote possibility. Everyone who'd adopted an older child made it sounds like everything was peachy, when in reality about 2 months after being home I found out one or more of them experienced the same thing, and some had gone on medication. I was so frustrated. I said why didn't you tell me this?
I know for sn's, toddler and older adoption part of it is people don't want to turn others off waiting children adoption. They are a little bit harder place and no one wants to keep a child from finding their family.
I personally would have loved to have some info BEFORE going to CHina, not because I would have changed my mind, but so that I could have been prepared. Neither of our agencies ever brought up PAD prior to either of our adoptions, and like the others I really feel agencies need to prep their families that this is a possibilty. Shelley
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