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Originally Posted by Birth4Mom3
My DH was always told that his BF walked away when his Bmom found out she was pregnant. That's what SHE told the agency when she placed him.
We found BF a few years ago and it was the farthest thing from the truth.
Sometimes what you think you know - with the information you have - isn't necessarily the truth. What we "know" should always be tempered with a grain of salt until the whole story is revealed.
DH hated BF for years - for no reason at all.
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Yes, well, I can only tell him what I know. But since this information came directly from the birthfather, not from anyone else, I'm pretty sure it's accurate. Our adoption was a private one, not an agency adoption, and the birthfather had the opportunity to complete medical information on himself and his family, etc. What he completed was VERY sketchy in some areas (that's a lot of help to my son -- NOT) but it included the information about his education, lack of job, no contact with my son, etc.
I still say my son is entitled to know what I know -- and I do tell him that it's probably a more complicated story than what we know.
Robin