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I can kind of understand why he would have asked the parent of the little girl to call because of the reasons you gave him for saying no. So he might not of been intentionally trying to manipulate you. You told him that he couldn't go because he didn't know last names, where they live etc sooooo... in a 12 year old's mind the easiest way to find all that out for Mom is to call and ask them.

Clearly stated rules and about 10 times actually going to check on him should (hehe if you are lucky) stop the going to people's homes when bike riding. My rule is that they cannot go onto anyone else's property, not even one foot into their grass unless they come home and ask first. Then I have to have the other child's parent's permission for them to be in the yard. They cannot go into anyone else's house for anything unless there is a massive amount of blood involved and an ambulance needs to be called is my other rule.

One thought about the after school thing, with a 12 year old that has sat in school for 9 hours, you might want to consider letting him have 30 to 45 minutes to ride his bike etc before he hits the books again. Just my humble opinion but it seems to help with very active kids to release some energy before studying.

On the asking after a NO rofl, well I have an expert at that one. If my answer is the least bit ambiguous like "maybe later" I can just about guarantee her to find another way to ask to go. I have learned with her to clearly state what I mean. For instance, my answer in that situation to her would have been, "No not this morning. We are doing chores until 2 p.m. If all the chores are done by 2 p.m. then you can go. If you ask me about it again before 2 p.m. then you may not go until 3 p.m. even if all chores are done."

With her, when it was really bad, I wrote down my answers to important things and gave them to her, she would read it over probably 50 times during the waiting time, but would not ask me again. Her problem was more that the people in her life before me were not consistant both with no's and with promising to do things later. Having it in writing gave her the security that I would really do what I said I was going to do. She didn't need this after about 3 months so we stopped it.