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Well, what we do is present the facts of the matter without emotion or opinion. Then we talk with our son about how he feels about what we've told him. We look at the situation from different points of view, let J draw his conclusions and then talk about how he feels. I'm also quick to point out that people can and do change. Just because someone made some bad choices at one point in their life, doesn't mean they will continue. It's about grace and forgiveness. Two things I want my son to experience and practice in life.
I personally don't have a very high opinion of J's birth family, but that's just my opinion. Although I am working on forgiving them in my own heart. J was adopted from foster care so there is some bad stuff there. But they are still J's birthfamily and someday he may want them to be a part of his life. I need to respect that.
Blessings,
Jenny
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