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Originally Posted By AC

like Richie thinks and automatically assumes that everyone and anyone he is around for 5 minutes is "My new friend". Do you all know what I mean? A prime example...The two boys are in sports camp for the summer and Richie always falls asleep in the car on the way home at the end of the day. Then the minute we get into the house he wants to jump on his bike and ride all over the neighborhood and end up at "my new friend's" house. Then later he comes home crying and tells me that I need to come talk to a parent. Come to find out they were playing and he tripped her by accident and her shoulder/arm got hurt and bruised. Thank God the parents were understanding and said they didn't think it was serious. As we all know accidents happen and Richie was very remorseful for it and apologized to her and parents before he came and got me. But later that night I had to explain to him that he wasn't even suppose to be their in the first place b/c all he had permission to do was ride his bike and if he does something I'm held responsible. Last night he asks if he could go to the Teen Fest with "my new friend" from camp b/c her dad will pick me up. I told him "No b/c you're only 12; you don't even know anything about this person like a last name or even where they live or anything about her; and I don't know these people and anything could happen" Less than 5minutes later he has them on the phone to ask me. This totally pissed me off and I Richie when I say "No, I mean know and having someone else ask me just makes it worse." Even today, as soon as he had breakfast he was ready to get in the streets. I told him "No, maybe later this evening b/c there's alot of chores that need to be done". So what does he turn around and do, have Shawn(Bio son)ask me. So I go to him and ask him "Didn't I just tell you couldn't go anywhere?" Then Richie says "Well it's 12noon now so I thought it was later or now the evening." I mean I hate to say it but I'm feel like I'm constantly saying "NO!" I always explain to him the reason behind it but I don't know if anything is sinking in. I hate to think that he assumes that I'm this "horrible new mom that doesn't let me do anything". But, I don't like or allow my kids to run/stay in the streets. It just doesn't look good and besides that's how THINGS happen. I told him that when school starts he's not going to be allowed to go outside at all until the weekend because they have to study and the grades he's use to getting won't cut it here. He gives me this strange look then says "I don't do that well in school besides I can just go to summer school." Do any of you have this problem and if so when do they get it? I mean I understand the foster/adoption mentality and socialization thing. But my goodness this is starting to get on my last nerve because I don't like it. Thanks for listening, I guess I just needed to vent.