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How do you "prove" that you aren't ttc? Did you have to show a birth control prescription or something? --mimc
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We had to talk to the MD and have him document our seriousness in choosing adoption. One of the reasons we chose to adopt, was because we did not believe in 'passing on the possibility of diabetes and severe early onset arthritis' to any bio children. (We also are big into the fact that we think there are already too many children in the world, and we never cared that we didn't have a child/baby that didn't look like us.)
Soooo, even though we did not actively have either of those diseases ourselves, we had personal convictions of laying out those genes to innocent kids. (We had seen too many family members suffer the effects of these maladies.) The MD had to document the possibilities of passing on these genes; and that document had to be taken back to the adoption agency.
We've adopted several times, and have had different agencies. (We were military for several years.) At one agency, before we could adopt, we had to take a marriage test (required of every couple)---individually and separately. It was so silly in that we had been married for 17yrs....and the questions bluntly asked things like, "How satisfied are you with your sex life?" "How often do you have sex in a month?"
Quite probing, to say the least! (You don't see bio parents taking something like this before having babies, do you?!?!?!? )
Sincerely,
Linny