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I had this after our son's adoption, and we had a bio daughter at home. I had no warning - and almost cried in relief when I found a book about it in a bookstore - i was searching in the "parenting" section for SOMETHING, ANYTHING that could explain how I was feeling....to be honest - i was actually looking for something that could explain why he was the way he was - when in fact it was ME with the issues!
I laughed when i read the post from "hhousl" about having to tell her husband they had to give their baby back - its not that funny, its so sad, but EXACTLY how I felt. But through lots of open conversation with dh and a good friend who has an adopted brother i was able to work through it all. I felt so guilty for feeling this way (as others have said) that it was a huge weight off my shoulders to realize I wasn't alone....
Our agency did not say a word about this - it was weeks into it that i even heard the term (about 6 months after our son was home) - although I knew right away it applied to me.
Are you still going through this Katia555 or are you on the other side now?
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