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You know, you can tell the 'softer version' of some sort----complete with basic facts----when and IF the first questions come about at a young age.
However, having had two adopted children who are now grown, and having little ones still at home, it's been our experience that when the age permits, complete honesty is the best way. If the story seems 'sad or unsettling'...then that's the way it is.
You could always say, 'I don't know all of the reasons, but this is what we were told'....and this is truth, while telling what you DO know. But, I have no belief in lying to any child about anything...especially when it comes to their biological beginnings.
Keep in mind that just because children might be adopted, in no way makes them immune to nasty circumstances; just as easily as birthchildren might be involved with similar circumstances as well.
Best of luck to you. I personally know that this stuff can be tough to deal with; yet, it must eventually be told with truth.
Sincerely,
Linny
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