Hi. I am the bio mom of 3 and amom to 1...total of 4 for those with math issues
(I am one who is mathmatically challenged). I don't know the ages of your other kids, but my oldest is 5 yrs and youngest is 7 months. I think the most stressful time is right after the birth when you are recovering. I had a c-section, so it was a little longer than the traditional method. Once that was done, it has been no more difficult than having 3. It may sound odd, but it is true. I nurse, so it forces me to take a break and HEAL. I'm sure for a woman with any of her kids in school there would be an added relief. I had the baby clothes. I had the bottles, blankets, carseat, stroller, and crib. I didn't have to buy much except diapers, wipes, and new mipples and binkies. I got some new outfits as gifts once the people knew the sex of the youngest. I am doing laundry anyway...just toss in some extra, tiny clothes. I am cleaning anyway...I am changing diapers anyway. It isn't quiet with 3 kids anyway! LOL!!! And I waved "bye-bye" to sleep years ago!
I realize they grow up and there is more to parenting than laundry and hand-me-down onsies, but who knows where you will be in 9 months? 18 months? 36 months? I am all for adoption if you think it will be best for your baby. God knows I would rather see a woman place her baby if she feels she isn't able to parent for whatever reason than have an abortion. Please see what is available in your area to help meet your needs so that you can decide what is going to be best for you, your baby, and your other 3 children. I wish there was something I could do to help. We are in an semi-adoption situation...no visits, but that is basically due to location etc... Open adoption may bea way for you and your other children to better adjust to the adoption while allowing you to enjoy your baby without all the pressure of parenting.
(((Prayers))) and (((HUGS)))
From one mommy of 4 to another...