Oh yes, but one thing I have learned is that once you adopt..you take on additional challenges and scrutiny. Even when you match your achild very well (facial features, skin, hair ) it may be easy to try and forget the child's "story" etc; but it will come up over time. It's how we deal with it, so the child does not feel like like an abnormality.
Everyone can do a part with working racial issues out, but quite a few AA learn that survival is how to deal with today and be productive. AA deal with a lot of folks who do not want to acknowledge that there is a problem and it get old trying to change folks mind or outlook. Too many folks are in denial, angry, hurt or do not care. IMO a part of working thru problems/issues is to first acknowledge and be honest that there is a problem.
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Originally Posted by akcskye
Amen to this!!!
But, isn't it so sad that we adoptive families come under such scrutiny that at times, especially to new adoptive families, we feel we HAVE to explain ourselves?
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