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Originally Posted by Fran27
You know, sometimes SAHM isn't a choice either (when you wouldn't earn enough anyway to make up for the crazy cost of daycare, or would just bring home maybe $100 a week after that). I'm sure lots of SAHM wish they could work and bring some money.
That, and you're 25, which is very young for adoptive families. 10 years down the road, you might very well be able to be a SAHM.
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I realize that sometimes SAHM isn't a choice either. And I don't think it's fair for either of us -- those who have to stay at home, or those who have to work, when we would rather do the opposite.
And, yes, I know I'm young to be adopting. My DH and I decided that rather than go through all the infertility treatments and stuff, we'd rather just skip to adoption. I'm young, but I really don't see anything changing about our financial situation in 10 years -- maybe in small ways, but not very much. We're probably both going to have student loans in payback, the home equity loan we took out to cover this adoption, plus both our cars will probably need replacing by then. We'll be lucky to just get all that stuff paid off, let alone be able to think about me staying home.
I was just trying to point out that not all of us do what we do because it's what we would like to do. Some of us have choices about these things and some of us don't. I happen to be one who doesn't.