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Originally Posted by bromanchik
Keegansmum,
While there is little doubt that adoption helps adoptive parents create families, that is not the true focus of adoption. The true focus of adoption is finding families for children who need them. What you, as a parent, need to decide is whether or not your baby needs a family or whether you and your family can provide your child with what you believe he/she needs. You also need to consider the needs of your older child. He will also experience the loss of his sibling. Again, every deals with these losses in different ways. Please do not think that just because he is young the loss will not effect him.
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I agree with this 100%. It is easy for adoptive moms (and I am one) to focus on the "gift" we feel we have received. However, adoption is about what is best for the child.
I hope you will find a good counselor who will not push you in either direction and make sure of your choice.