[PMAPhila]

My DH & I are trying to decide if we should switch adoption agencies.

We were told in March, when we submitted our application, that we WOULD be able to adopt from China (in spite of my husband's past arrest related to alcoholism). He has been sober for 5 years - PTL.

We were told a 2nd time in April, that as long as you did not have a history of drug use, we would be able to adopt from China, so we paid the home study fee.

AFTER the home study visit, our SW called us & told us that we did NOT qualify for China and that we could switch to their Korea program. We chose the agency based on their China program, not Korea.

We have found several other agencies that have significantly shorter wait times (up to 18 months less than our agency's current wait times) and do not know if we should switch agencies. Our home study agreement (which was signed based on the agency's representation that we would qualify for China) says that we cannot transfer the home study to a competing program.

We are torn. I am still waiting to hear back from another agency to see if we even qualify for their Korea program (they use SWS, which has different requirements than Holt, our current agency's contact in Korea).

I have tried to turn this over to the Lord again & again, but it just gets harder & harder for me to relinquish the control (that I know I do not have).

Please help.

Tricia