[mrflick]

My wife and I are thinking of adopting a child in the 11-14 age range. We have two children now (both by birth): a 7 year old son and a 2 year old daughter.

I have found numerous articles about adopting "older" kids, but they have all been in the context of the adopted child being an only child. I have not found any information about younger birth kids all of a sudden having older adopted siblings.

I think our son is old enough that we can talk about this with him before we get the ball rolling, but at what point do we bring up this subject with our daughter? I belive adoption to be a beautiful and noble thing, and I want my birth kids to understand that; however, above all, I want them to realize that Big Sis is in fact just that, Big Sis...regardless of who gave birth to her.

Any thoughts or links to articles are greatly appreciated!

Thanks,
Matt