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Yikes, Donna - I can see you have a bit of a situation there. I'm not sure what to do...I sure do want to see those kids stay with you, and I don't know if telling the caseworker would jeopardize the placement. Ordinarily, I'd suggest that you get the therapist to talk to your husband so you have some back up on convincing him that this is NOT okay, but since he thinks therapists are hogwash, I don't imagine it would be very convincing. The very specific point that he needs to understand (have you phrased it his way?) is that he is undermining Brandy, in a way. By letting her laugh off therapy, he is giving her permission to NOT learn or gain anything from it. And if she doesn't take it seriously, she'll never be able to be a strong woman or a good mom. So it is in Brandy's own best interests that he help her take the theraphy seriously! Maybe in the end the best ideas IS to tell the caseworker, and get him to help you give hubby this message. I don't "think" it will jeopardize the placement - but hearing it from a third party may help hubby "get it", especially if HE thinks it might jeopardize the placement. I'm working on the assumption here that the social worker will want to work with you to save the placement and resolve the issues, since a "grandparent" placement is undoubtedly the first choice for these two. I don't know if any of this helps - but good luck with it! These kids NEED you -and Brandy does to, since you are the only one willing to give her the truths she needs to hear.
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