[manni28]

this wife should run for the hills from this cheating husband....and this husband should know he has a child and the child should know his father and extended bfamily. its not as if the mother is giving the child up...she's keeping the child...no reason to deprive the child a chance at knowing his father.

Let's look at this from another perspective, if we are concerned about how the wife may feel. In the world of AIDS today, this man had sex with a woman not his wife and clearly exchanged bodily fluids with that woman. Now, as a wife, I would want to know that my husband was having unprotected sex with others (actually any sex with others but that's me). So, I think it is important for the wife to have information which is vital to her health. If she wants to stay with the jerk after that, fine. And honestly, she is going to find out sooner or later. This child will eventually come knocking on Daddy's door. There is no way to protect her from this information. She should know sooner, rather than later, IMO.

Healingfeeling and Isabo:

Yes, you and Isabo are both right! But, who are we to play god? Yes, his wife needs to run fast but that isn't going to change the fact the father wants nothing to do with the child-it won’t make him become "daddy"( remember he left when she said she was pregnant.) Also, let's be honest, it takes two to tangle, but this woman should have known better than to knowingly date a married man-much less have a baby by him. I'm sorry but, as a married woman ,I would not want my hubby's mistress and her kid knocking on my door telling me "guess what?”.( they would probably have to call the police on me )


His man will pay for his sins but I don't think that telling this woman: "yes, go tell his family" will solve anything. His family may not even want to know the child-they may see she and the child as the reason for the break-up of the son's marriage (if they should divorce) and blame them.


So, I would be very careful about any advice I give to her.

Of course this is just my opinion