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Originally Posted by manni28

You said the man was married but had no children, right? Let's say the wife can't have children, do you know what this would/could do to her?

Let's look at this from another perspective, if we are concerned about how the wife may feel. In the world of AIDS today, this man had sex with a woman not his wife and clearly exchanged bodily fluids with that woman. Now, as a wife, I would want to know that my husband was having unprotected sex with others (actually any sex with others but that's me). So, I think it is important for the wife to have information which is vital to her health. If she wants to stay with the jerk after that, fine. And honestly, she is going to find out sooner or later. This child will eventually come knocking on Daddy's door. There is no way to protect her from this information. She should know sooner, rather than later, IMO.

I think your co-worker should sue this man for child support and let his family know they have a grandchild. Its a little late to worry about hurting his wife. His wife has already been hurt very badly by both her husband AND this woman - the wife just doesn't know it YET. That pain is going to find her like a heat seeking missile, sooner or later. The child and the rest of the family shouldn't be denied their family relationships to cover up the husband's bad acts.