We have kinship care of the two grandchildren (1 and 3). Their father is under a no contact order due to his not complying with the court orders. Yet he just dropped my stepdaughter off at my house (what would have happened if the grandchildren had been outside???)
Brandy (my stepdaughter) is under supervised visits only to be supervised by my husband or myself. It appears that he may be leaving her at our home with the kids and my 16 yr old daughter, my 15 yr old nephew, my 17 yr old nephew and a 19 yr old friend of the family - this equals to no supervision at all.
Also, two weeks in a row now after Brandy has had her group parenting class with the therapist and R (granddaughter - Brandy's daughter) - anyway, for two weeks in a row now Brandy and my husband have had laughing fits together over the parenting classes. She laughs herself silly telling hubby how stupid the therapist is, how stupid the classes are etc and hubby not only listens but adds his own two cents (he doesn't believe in therapists so thinks its all a bunch of hogwash) to the laughfest. I warned him about it last week after it happened the first time apparently to no good.
I want to call the social worker to tell him what's going on. But then on the other hand, he's planning on filing for us to have permanent custody in September. I don't want the kids to be placed in foster care b/c after a certain time limit the kids get adopted out and since he's already told me that Brandy won't be able to complete everything she has to in a year's time which is why he is moving for us to have permanent custody at 6 mos, what happens next??? If placement fails with us, I doubt they would then consider letting us adopt especially since I'm still under the respite only rule due to not having documentation supporting any therapy I had as a child due to my own abuse (I've already been told that at this time, we can't adopt the kids we've wanted).
I'm so mad and so disgusted. This was part of the reason I didn't want to take the kids in - cuz I knew these problems would arise. Hubby has always put Brandy first and he's been told numerous times by the social workers etc that he has to put the kids first but apparently he's still intent on keeping Brandy happy.
