[BrandyHagz]

I was in a sorta similar situation. I ended up pregnant after a non-consensual interaction. I felt, even though this guy had denied paternity and had denied me any information for the health of my child, he had no right to deny my child a possible relationship with his extended family members.

I contacted them when Jerrett was about 13 months old and sent them pictures via a sister that seemed interested in having some contact.

I never heard anything.

I contacted them again when Jerrett was just under 5 and sent them pictures via the mail, they never responded or even acknowledged receipt of the photos.

I contacted them again when Jerrett was ten, this time I called and asked for medical information – I got some, not much – but more than I had. I exchanged email addresses with grandma and sent her a few emails, which she eventually responded to – but she was mostly only good for chain emails…which sucked for Jerrett.

I did contact her again and asked her to contact her son and ask him to contact me, so I could talk to him about his court ordered child support, his share of the medical bills and the upcoming orthodontic appointment we had.

That lit a fire – but in the end, all I got was his mailing address (which was on the Sex offender Registry in his new state)…not that expected much more.

All in all – I am glad I tried and continued to try – at least when Jerrett starts asking questions, if he asks questions, I can look him in the eye and say “I tried, I’m sorry things didn’t work out”.

I think your friend needs to at least try…not for herself, not for the family, not for the ex – but for the child.