[makhaze]

Okay, I'd like to get some opinions on this. A co-worker of mine who came back from maternity leave a few months ago has been pretty upset lately. I thought at first it was just post-partum stuff going on, sad from having to go back to work and leave the baby, etc., but she broke down a few days ago while we were on break and told me some stuff. She asked me not to repeat it so I feel bad about discussing it here, but i thought maybe I could get some other views that might help her. This is what she told me. She had a relationship with a married man that ended when she found out she was pregnant. He, of course, did not want to take responsibility for the baby. She didn't want to break his marriage up so she never bothered him again. Not only that, but he never knew her last name or where she lived, so he has no way of finding her. She says she is upset because she feels guilty and feels bad for this man's family. His parents, brother and sisters, etc. She feels that she is denying them the right to know their grandson, nephew... she said she feels as if she has "robbed" this family. I don't really know what is the right thing to tell her. Any suggestions?