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My adoption took place under similar circumstances. My bmum was under the age of consent and her mum made her adopt me out, my bmum didnt even know it had been organised until she was 9 months preggers and her Dr told her. What made it worse for my bmum, wasnt just that she was unwed and pregnant at 17yo, but unfortunately she was pregnant to a Maori(New Zealands indigenous people). So she was very much the family disgrace, locked inside all day and only let out at night for a walk in the garden when the neighbours couldnt possibly see her.
Somehow my bmum was able to forgive her mum, so who was I to judge. Anyway it was 15years over when I met my bmum, so alot of water under the bridge for them, and the way I saw it was that she was pretty much a product of the time for back then. I ended up getting on alright with the Grandmother over the years till she passed away. In fact, in the end, I was the only grandchild who really had much to do with her, and my daughter was the only great grandchild that she ever saw.
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