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Originally Posted By Sean

If your already not comfortable with the situation, than you should not adopt this particular womans baby. Maybe you should go with a closed or international adoption so you won't have to deal with the Mom. Don't just pay this Mom lip service to get her baby. Sounds like shes making long term plans based on your willingness to be open. So be prepared to stick to your commitments otherwise you are going to live in fear and risk losing your adult child when he/she reunites in the future. My mother sent me a letter every year on my birthday (My adoptive parents told her she could) and they were all returned to sender. I just found her and my younger siblings after 23 years. It makes mad because I could have known them all before and now I know my parents are liars. At least she saved the letters so I can read them now.

Thanks,

Sean