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Hi AlphaGal,
I don't have much advice to offer but I can offer some support. I'm kind of in the same position as you are. Questions go unanswered; sometimes a month or two will pass before I get a response to an e-mail. There's no way to ignore the one-sidedness of the relationship, but all I can say is try not to give up on them. Hopefully they'll come around. Perhaps in not wanting contact with them, you are protecting yourself from the pain that comes with this situation in your relationship with your bfamily. At least I think that's what my thinking was. It hurts and there isn't much we can do about it. Somehow I don't think we could just ask them to please be a family to us. Sometimes it just seems easier for adoptees to become a family than for the other bfamily members. It's difficult, but I believe we must find a way to keep up the effort.
Bob