[ChinaMamaWannaBe]

kelceesmom -

Thanks for the encouragement. I am remaining prayerful about the situation during this time of waiting. I trust God for the wisdom to know if/when to go through with an adoption.

straightblues -

Thanks for your opinion, however, I must say I respectfully disagree with you. Not about the sacrament of marriage and God's design for of the ideal family - but about everything else you said.

Also, what I have learned regarding this situation is that priests can only give their 'opinion' about what they think of single adoption because there is no Church teaching against it. And opinions vary depending on whom you are speaking with. I am not against discussing it with my priests, but I just thought I would express this to you.

And, I don't think you are making a valid point by saying that I should take a chance on a teenager who is stuck in the system rather than adopting a child who is practically a clean slate because they are an infant or toddler. It is like you are saying it's okay to risk the well-being of an already screwed-up human being instead of one that stands a chance of not being warped - or something like that. I know you don't mean it that harshly, but that is basically what you are saying. It is not rational (to me) to say that singles are only good for married people's leftovers or rejects. All children are precious and must be protected no matter what age or what situation they are in. If a single shouldn't adopt a baby, then they shouldn't adopt a teenager. You cannot have it both ways in my opinion.

Please understand, I am not criticizing you. I am glad you chimed in. I just adamently disagree with your point of view.