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Originally Posted by oceangirlHI
I really enjoyed this thread, i was actually going to start a similar one because i had an intreging (to me) thought:
Often, Caucasion (sp) parents are criticized for only wanting to adopt children of their own race (if this is what they are only willing to do). So why is it that AA parents who make the same choice (are only willing to adopt within their race) dont get criticized in the same way? 
Please dont slam me for saying any of this, I dont really have an opinion one way or the other, i was just curious to see what others thought |
It has two causes: First there is the legacy of racism in this country and how AA people tend to be on the bottom of the racial hierarchy, there is the feeling that adopting transracially is that racism turned inward (sort of agreeing with the rest of the world that says that our chidlren are not worthy). The second issue is the shear number of AA childrent ath are available. See for us to adopt transracially you often have to really go out of your way because in most places there are far more people competing for HWI AND very few people willing to adopt AA babies so inorder to specify that you want to adopt transracially you would probably ahve to turn down SEVERAL chidlren to wait for a CC or Hisp child. LIke I said in our fourth search for a child we were offered a few full CC babies but int he end the fees were twice what we could pay. We searched independently and within 12 weeks we had over 50 leqads on infants and toddlers of those 50, 5 became matches. I don't think that happens when looking for CC infants. Bottom mline is that when AA people want to adopt there are so many opportunities it is almost like you would have to step over all of the available chidlren to make a statement AND with the legacy of slavery there is a history of taking care of your own. It is still a very strong cultural thing and it is unfortunately stll neccessary because others are still reluctant to take care of our children.
lisa