Wow - lots going on right now - but most importantly I think it's best to say you can agree to disagree on some points and move on......just my observation with reading the posts that have been going back and forth. However I've 'enjoyed' reading them because each of you have stuck up for yourselves, your family (afamily or bfamily) and how you delt with and are dealing with your own personal adoption - thank you for being so honest.......nothing has been that harsh in my opinion - this is an opinion forum, not a judgemental one, and I'm not really sensing judgemental's going on here.
Manni - Yes, I live with my bfriend - and yes right now we are very seperate on our views, and we both believe the other isn't looking out for the best interest of our child. But oddly enough, we both respect eachothers thoughts/opinions/feelings so much that it really doesn't get nasty at all. Yes we cry, we get angry we vent at eachother, but at the end of the day we can joke about everyday life, play games, and just hold eachother and pray........I think the thing that helps us be this way twords eachother is becuase neither of us has made a definate decision.....and that's comforting on both ends, and we both need to explore all that we can with in ourselves in order to hold our head up high about what ever decision we make. As for my ex-husband.....we're not trying to get back together......we've finally established a strong co-parent relationship, which has helped us both out - not to mention made our kids lives easier as well as ours. Yes, like I've said is there potential for my ex and I in my future.....who can say there isn't......but there's also potential for me and the bfather as well.......no matter which way this goes......I guess what I'm trying to say is I haven't ruled out anything in my relationship aspect of my life, however non of it is a determining factor (nor will it ever be) I couldn't give my child up for a man - that's just ridiculous for me to even contemplate, because nothing in life is certain except the love I have for my children - they are my constant, not the man/men in my life.
Thx again all for being so honest and true to yourselves. I'm happy for all of you who have had good aparents and great lives - if I choose adoption I can only hope the same for my child....Bless you all!!
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