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Hi Cmara, what I'm hearing is perhaps your desire for emotional intimacy. I experienced this after reuniting with my bfamily. I think for alot of us adoptees there is a yearning to reconnect and perhaps gain what was lost. The need to feel close to say "I love you", give or receive a hug, a sort of emotional cementing. I think those feelings are completely natural; synchronizing those needs with our loved ones is the challenge. We don't want to come on too strong and risk the relationships we're forming. For me I handled it by taking cues from my bfamily; their body language, facial expressions, etc. and when it felt right I was able to reveal and share more of myself, be it a deeper conversation, or an emotional exchange. Having said that I'm lableled as the mushy one in my bfamily, and I've been known to steal a few hugs from the ones who are less likely to approach me first.
Hugs,
Rose
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