[manni28]

Oh its nothing to do with opportunities. I was far better off away from my bio mother, but the baby part of me still knew something had gone! research has shown that even children up to the age of 3 can be unconsioiusly searching for "mother" . its so hard to comprehend with our adult intellect but our feelings remember. We dont just become feeling creatures the moment of birth, there was a whole 9months we spent with our "mothers" it would be inhuman to think those 9months meant nothing and left no mark on us? dont you think? its so hard to go there at times though, taken me lots of therapy to get to this point of acceptence

See, you probably didn't have a great childhood with your afamily(?) but for those of us that did we aren't missing anything. Yes, we search, because we are curious, but it doesn't mean we want to "replace" our afamilies because we feel a "longing" or need to be "whole". I think it depends on the childhood experience and the relationship with the aparents.