[manni28]

The analogy might not be the best, but I think it is important to hear the sentiment. There are many adoptees who feel out of place in the their adoptive families. For some it is not feeling fully accepted by extended family members, for others it is feeling as though they do not belong with their adoptive parents. I think it is really important to recognise this. It happens today, even in fully open adoptions. Even in adoptions where the adoptive parents are open to discussion.

Brenda:

I don't agree with this. It as if, the biofamily, is the family for the adoptee. Yes, I can see some extended amembers who dont see the child as "family" .But there are many (myself included) who are glad that we weren't raised with our biofamilies and we fit perfectly in with the adopted family. Because a person is adopted doesn't mean they will "miss" or "long" for their biofamily( I think that’s a romantic myth or can be true if the adoptive family is dysfunctional) but a lot of us are happy and adjusted citizens of society who view adoption as a one time event in our lives and not a consumption or a definition of our lives.



The child that array is having has, IMO, no business being born into such a dysfunctional environment. It’s mom doesn’t want to be a mom again and the dad wants to parent who do you think will bare the “burden” of this? Is it worth a child staying with it’s biofamily “just because”?