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Originally Posted by bromanchik
The analogy might not be the best, but I think it is important to hear the sentiment. There are many adoptees who feel out of place in the their adoptive families. For some it is not feeling fully accepted by extended family members, for others it is feeling as though they do not belong with their adoptive parents. I think it is really important to recognise this. It happens today, even in fully open adoptions. Even in adoptions where the adoptive parents are open to discussion.
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IMHO I didn't think the analogy was the best at all and i agree with the original poster that it was offensive. To compare with kittens and giraffes, yuck! I'm sorry that some have not had a perfect adoption experience, there are many biological familys that have not had a great experience and are affected for the rest of their lives as well.
Yes, there has been some horrible adoption situations, BUT there have been some absolutely wonderful ones as well. There are some adoptees that don't feel like they fit in or were loved BUT they are some who feel very much loved and part of their new family. Every situation is different. Not all aparents are manipulative, some are very much loving. Not all are waiting to take advantage of a bmom, some see a situation where they feel they can help a child have a family that can and will love and provide for that child. There are many adoptees who are very glad that their bfamily chose to give them a family and opportunity that they themselves were not able (for whatever reason) and they have found much love in that family and it is their REAL family.